So how did you get on with a vision with the any who am I.
It's quite interesting isn't as quite who was well I thought it was quite cool.
That's possibly just me being subjective.
Well listen what I'm really pointing towards and work in working towards now is is just beginning to
get clear on.
On one level our own core identities is in view of being able to coach other people towards fully recognising
understanding and accepting the rún too.
So in this view I'd like to introduce you to the core identity coaching model and this is a very basic
framework that you can use to help Lissette and extract all of the ideas and the opinions and the beliefs
that someone has inside of their mind about who they are and start structuring them in a rational way
so that we can help other people to make sense of themselves.
I don't know I could go really complicated on you here.
I don't need to.
I came up with this more though a few years ago.
That's right you might find being in the psychological textbook someday for inventing that core identity
model but this isn't about me impressing you.
It's just about me simply impressing upon you the importance of their speakers through the course.
What I could be doing as a could be sharing with you all the textbook techniques and frameworks and
models in psychological arbel that you're going to get in most life coaching frameworks and textbooks
and online courses.
To be honest with you what was the point but B that would not be an expression of me being authentic
genuine under another level that's just never worked for me and never helped me to get any real depth
of result in a person's life.
Therefore if I was just pass on that useless information to you well you wouldn't be thanking me for
it because you wouldn't be getting any real fantastic results with anyone else either.
So the reason that I see all bias is because this model has enabled me to really help people to get
to the root of their core identity beliefs and life because just because we believe something to be
true in life doesn't mean that it is.
And unfortunately for many people.
People grow to develop in accurate and incorrect beliefs about who they are.
No I don't know if you've ever heard the story off the craw That's Ron schiller.
Well if not please please allow me to share this one with you.
And there was one day there was a crow sitting on the side of the lake and this tarantula walked up
to him and he said Scuse me Mister glow mr. crow.
I'm trying to get across the other side of the lake to see my wife and kids.
Any chance I could hop in your back and you could give me a left over.
Well you seem cruel ways aren't too sure about tarantulas because tarantulas have a history of biting
crows.
Some mr. crow was a bit taken back he said look mr. trunch of the Just you stay where you're at.
I'm not quite sure about you because we know that's the tarantulas generally bite Drus So I want to
get bitten as you bite me inject you with your poison then I might die.
I do want a die.
Not today anyway.
Well mr. trunchbull have responded to mr. crow and said well let's OK let's just talk about this rationally
here.
You know if you were going to do me this good turn and fly me across to the other side of the lake that
I would be so grateful to you it wouldn't possibly even dream about.
Bitin yet in injecting you with my venom and mr. cruel star to come into agreement he thought one kind
of makes sense.
So we end up lowering as well.
And mr. trunch electroplated on his back and then took off and started flying across the lake.
No there were around about half way across the lake when mr. Krause just felt these two fangs plunge
into the back of his neck.
And that was a Mr trunch I'll just bet them you inject that in with the poison or the venom and the
venom will start going through his body.
Mr cruel could no feel his body shutting down.
And he looked round.
He said Oh mr. trunch you just being me.
You said that you wouldn't.
Why have you done this to me.
What have you done this to us.
And try Angela said.
Haha.
Because I am a tarantula.
I mean I.
And that's what tarantulas do.
We buy craws.
No.
But almeta for which you are not found entertaining.
Serve the purpose of me telling you this story is to illustrate that many people in life will act and
behave in accordance with who it is that they believe they fundamentally are at the core right.
See for example.
Here in Scotland we have a bit of a problem in the criminal justice system.
And this is where the prisons are full for quite a number of years now.
In fact for pretty much a decade there's been press releases and government based initiatives looking
to tackle this problem of repeat offending.
And this is where young guys go into prison.
Quite a young age for having committed some sort of offence.
Spend some time in prison.
They get out and then three to six 12 months later they're back in harbin re offended more often than
not having committed the exact same crime that got them into prison to begin with in the first place.
And what we're seeing here is that if you think about it if someone if a young man was to believe that
who he was was a criminal or a thief or a murderer or a rapist or something like birth how do you think
he's then going to go on to behave.
I speak for myself.
You share my own story at the age of 16 I joined the Army.
And joining us as such a young boy I was I was quite impressionable.
I was quite quite easily influenced back then.
And over the first couple of years when my L3 service I learned what it was to be a soldier.
No because I joined the military not knowing who I was.
I ended up developing this identity belief that who I am is a soldier.
What I'm seeing here is that for many years in my life I allowed what I did for a living and how well
I did for a living to define me at the core.
And this is a problem.
This is a shrub that many people fall into in life.
This is the trap that most of your clients will have fallen into at some point in the past.
Most of them will still be in it if you learn how to ask the right questions and you know where to dig.
And this is kind of what I'm hopefully helping you to do here.
You see for me having grown to identify this this this core identity belief of who I am as a soldier.
This was fine when I was in the Army because of how I was was I was actually a very good soldier.
You know I began work in a way up there up the chain of command that received a few promotions that
I saw as concealing it and validated that who I was I was very good at doing what I'd done.
I was very good at doing what I'd done because how I was been a soldier I was always been a good soldier.
Then my identity beliefs were okay.
I felt relatively secure within myself.
But the problem came the day that I left the army the day that I handed back my identity card.
Not that specific day but actually for about three years that followed my mood my self-esteem plummeted.
Why.
Because I was no longer a soldier.
You see I guess I'd come to believe that if a soldier was a significant thing to do with one's life
and because there was a relatively good soldier I saw myself as being significant and the find myself
by how well I'd done what I'd done.
But no I wasn't doing what I used to do so well anymore at all.
And as I worked in various jobs and building sites in banks or worked on the doors all these sorts of
things that these really take my boxes which which meant that my my self-esteem plummeted because more
intrinsic value although that was always the same as I explain at the minute it was my perceived intrinsic
value plummeted because I placed a lot of value on myself.
Being a sore jerk when I wasn't a soldier and no longer had that precede value and this is what caused
me the issues no.
Could talk about this and look at it from a slightly different angle.
Again many people will define themselves by their beliefs their own.
I have worked with people in the past who are very political right some people will define themselves
know I am conservative.
I are more labour I am less This is who I am do you define themselves by their by their political beliefs.
Other people will define themselves by their religious beliefs.
I am Christian I am Catholic because of what I believe and this is I'm not making a lot making fun here.
Our religion is greater it genuinely is.
But all religion just stems from the beliefs people have.
If you think about it no one openly wants to acknowledge or or admet or accept what they believe is
untrue.
But this is the problem with beliefs right.
Just because we believe something to be true especially about ourselves doesn't mean that it is.
And what I'm seeing here is that if your clients come to you defining themselves by what they do or
by what they believe and this could be Christian.
They could be Muslim.
It could be so Jared could be seen or it could be criminal.
It could be mother.
It could be a father.
It could be to be son.
It could be whatever job right or roarke rank it could be a political party a labourer.
The problem with the finding ourselves by what we do in life what we choose to come our time to is.
If these things get taken away.
If any of these things get ruptured for like for example our beliefs can change.
This is fundamentally the process of growing up maturing in life.
The process of growing up is growing up and so forth if the limiting beliefs we develop about ourselves
as children and this is one of the main roles that you start to potentially play as a life coach by
helping people to understand that they are not what they do who they are.
It's very different because when we establish the truth about who we are we become free of then to go
want to do what ever it is we want to do.
See for example you watch this video right now and you may be defined and mean you may be judging me.
You know I am teacher.
I am a communicator.
Well that's not who I am.
Those are just things that I do.
I am a teacher sometimes sometimes I teach but that's not who I am at the core.
That's just what I do.
Check out the reviews and the course.
Some people will have given me five star reviews and see this is a fantastic life coaching course.
Kane you're awesome you're great.
Thanks very much for sharing your insights and such a fascinating way.
Whereas other people will say no we don't like you.
We don't like how you're teaching this subject and how you're communicating.
So how is always going to be subjective because home is my choice.
What I do is ultimately my choice but how I choose to conduct myself will either be genuine under fence
or it won't be around.
You see how is generally going to be good or bad.
Alright.
Right or wrong.
And this is one of the areas in which we'll have most of our conflicts.
In life or people all the people that come to you for coaching will have most of their conflicts in
life.
They will be questioning as to whether they are good enough.
DA A good enough mom a good enough muslum a good enough Christian a good enough Labour politician.
See where I'm going with this queries.
Other people for example will see themselves.
I'm a I'm a criminal I am.
I'm a I'm a bad person.
I I always get things wrong because I always get things wrong because I am fundamentally bad people
would just look in a hole is that they choose to conduct themselves then defining their identity beliefs
upon how it is that they choose to conduct themselves.
And this is what keeps criminals repeat offending you super regalness.
So I'm going to explain all this and a bit more detail in a later video as I share with you the good
enough principle but here OK all I can really do is share with you how it is that I find myself because
if I show you how it is that I find myself then you know hopefully be able to understand how to use
this model to better define and more accurately the find yourself because only once you are accurately
defining yourself and then acting in accordance you are then going to be able to influence other people
towards take full responsibility and accepting the truth of who it is that they are.
Right now this some complex makes some complicated but I promise you it's really not the right.
What I am doing my best to do through this course what I'm doing my best to do what I do is be as honest
as I physically can be.
So what I'm doing my best to do is be as honest as wife is if we can be which means that what I say
and hope I see what I say will determine whether you want to see and understand what it is that I am
doing my best to explain to you.
So I'm being as honest as I can.
But look at this honest being honest is it something that we do.
We can only be honest.
We can do honest.
We can we can do Christianity.
We can do criminalism we can do.
Being a parent akin to being a Muslim can do.
Being a CEO we can do being a son of labour a soldier and that those are all things that we physically
do but whether we do these things stemming from who it is we actually are is going to be the difference
between between whether we are living out of a place of authenticity or whether we're not.
And if we're not living from this place of authenticity then we are living or die.
Right.
Living a life growing up in life is about us committing to go on this journey of self discovery.
And if you've ever heard that term before the journey of self discovery.
Well this is the model that we use to take people on this exact journey self discovery in covering it
unpacking the truth of who we are.
And the truth of who we're not.